In response to Sex: The Purity of It and It Happened to Me: I Waited Until My Wedding Night to Lose My Virginity and I Wish I Hadn't I made a decision several years ago. It was a choice I always knew I was going to make, but I know that as I go to college, I am going to keep making it and renew my commitment to this ideal every chance I get. What is this ideal? This thing I am so sure is attainable? My virginity! Yeah! I'm not having sex until I'm married. My commitment is not the same as some of the ones shown on MTV's "Virgin Territory," because those commitments aren't so much about reserving yourself for a potential future spouse as they are budgeting yourself out so that actual intercourse only happens with your future spouse. My commitment is more about following God in relationships, especially romantic ones, and setting boundaries that won't lead me into sin. Sex outside of God-ordained, Biblical marriage is a sin. That is my belief. That doesn't mean I elevate it over other sins, or focus on it every minute of the day. The church has never taught me that if I save myself, one day when I get married, my wedding night will be magical and rainbows will sprout out of windows while flower petals drift around me. The internet is a vast source of education, and I am a proponent of education about the body and how it works, because I think God made our bodies pretty awesome. I've heard God made sex pretty awesome too. But there are other awesome things, like pledging to choose to love someone every day for the rest of your life, or being kind to a neighbor, or steak, or puppies and goats. All those things are great. God gave us love and the ability to be kind and connect with other people. I think it's wonderful. I also think it's very important that we guard our hearts and our bodies, because we're supposed to be a temple for the Holy Spirit. God tells us to flee from temptation so we don't fall into sin. As humans, though, we tend to revert to our nature instead of our spirit and we mess up. God's grace is big enough to cover all of our mistakes. He offers us forgiveness if we repent and turn away from our wrongdoings. Purity except in marriage is more than holding out for sex or dressing modestly, no matter what your gender is. Purity starts with the heart and then radiates outward, just like God's love for us. Kindness and mercy do the same things. Sex should not be an idol. It's a gift from God, and should be treated with respect, but the most important gift God has ever given us is His love, and we should first find our fulfillment in that before we search for it in relationships of any kind.
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